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Always indulging others is a habit that can lead us to live badly. That is why it is important to listen to yourself and learn to say no without feeling guilty.

It often happens in everyday life that requests from colleagues, friends or loved ones are accepted for the sole fear of not disappointing them. This attitude, if it becomes a habit, can be an obstacle to personal well-being. Always pleasing others and not listening to oneself can in fact create discomfort, dissatisfaction and malaise. This is why it becomes essential to learn to say no every now and then, to set boundaries and also to listen to one’s needs.

To do this, you need to develop good self-esteem, self-love and an assertive attitude. Let’s see specifically why it is important to learn how to say no and how to do it without feeling guilty.

Why can’t we say no?

Not knowing how to say no in psychology has a very specific meaning and has to do with the unconditional need for love and the ancestral fear of being rejected . Expressing dissent, refusing a request and setting limits can also cause us unpleasant situations, generate conflicts and alienate people.

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It is precisely the fear of disappointing others, of not obtaining their consent and of being turned away from them that pushes us to always be condescending, even where the requests of others can cross our borders .

Ultimately, it can be said that saying no is so difficult because we are animated by an atavistic need to be loved and by the fear of being alone. Yet, learning to say no is an indispensable act not only to feel good about yourself but also to better enjoy relationships with others.

How to learn to say no and be happy

As mentioned, knowing how to say no is a way to affirm oneself and one’s desires, but to do so it is necessary to cultivate a certain type of attitude that allows us to acquire greater self-confidence. So here’s how to learn to say no in a kind way and without feeling guilty.

Grow your self-esteem . To be able to say no and affirm yourself, you must first of all know your value. Loving yourself and giving importance to yourself as well as to others is the first point to establish sincere bonds and live with serenity.

Learn assertiveness . To learn how to say no, you need to be able to communicate effectively. The essential aspects for good communication are to present your ideas and motivations clearly and effectively, without making excuses or justifications. Affirming one’s thoughts with education and firmness can allow us to communicate even a no in a kind way and without making us feel guilty.

Do not depend on the approval of others . It is natural and human to rely on the opinions of others and need confirmation from others, but it is essential that this does not become the only aspect to pay attention to. It is indeed important to know that it is not possible to please everyone, nor must it be a goal to be achieved. Feeling confident, communicating with others in a sincere way, even saying no, and taking into account your needs are fundamental aspects for living a peaceful life.


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